The Opportunity of Saying No

There is always time to say yes

To change your mind,

Make space if you want. 

The magic of no is this opportunity - 

A hole of options

Allowed to exist without. 


Time moves forward on a continual yes

Forcing your hand

Along the chronological escalator

But you can choose 

To keep your space 

Free from cluttered obligations, 

Preconceptions, requests, needs of others. 


Your no carries the bounty of your agency

Living amid the chaos you have survived.

The life well-tended to, a garden,

Watered with wet no’s

Enriching the flora of your dreams.


Grow your vines of consent up tall

Use their leaves to secure yourself in confidence

Attaching prickles to privacy in your domain. 

This is your castle

Cherish it with the no’s of your convictions. 


You reside in the home of your making

And you build its fence with your demeanor

Possibilities are yours to flourish

If only you’ll say no.

ethel khanis

Ethel Khanis has been a high school chemistry teacher, scientist, and is currently navigating the world of chronic illness through long covid. She strives to live in a world where care and consideration are indulged alongside breads and baked goods, and hate in all forms is challenged.  This work comes out of wishing that the medical system utilized an automatic "opt in" format for all interactions rather than the assumed consent currently employed.